Our relationship with the kids bio mom can pretty much be summed up with these sentences, written back to back in our communication log.
* [For my birthday] Would you make me some of those cookies you made me for Mother’s Day from Pumpkin?
(I hate hate hate people asking for things. Even though we have sent her things for every holiday, a part of me still expects her to act surprised when we do.)
*Same note: Thank you for taking care of my children the way that you do.
Tearful, of course.
If the note only would have included a comment about him being improperly dressed for the weather, we really would have our entire relationship in three sentences.