As I may have mentioned once or twice, we tend to overanalyze things in this house. Five whole minutes debating which diaper bag to bring to church.
(Side note: After a whole 8 weeks of foster parenting, my first foster parent tip for you: Have TWO diaper bags. We have our diaper bag stocked with all our goodies (and cloth diapering supplies) for our family trips. And a separate diaper bag just for visits with mom. Those special socks she sent, an outfit she likes, plastic bottles (we use glass at home), and a spare pacifier. This has saved so much last minute panic of, “Where’s his favorite pacifier!?!” And we don’t worry about “our favorite ___ ” getting lost.)
I have so many questions I would love to ask her, and probably never will. Mostly, I want to know what her time was like in foster care. How many homes was she in? Was she in loving homes? What does she think of her mother? I want to know her hopes and dreams for Pumpkin, Zucchini, & Carrot, and how we can support her.
Croi wants to know if anyone told her she was special & loved. (yup, I married a great one) And wants her to know that we tell Pumpkin how special and loved he is.
After church I asked her if there was anything she wanted to ask us. We’ve spent hours wondering what she thinks of Pumpkin having two foster moms, if she has pieced that together, about us being white….
After a minute, she said, “How does he sleep at night?”
I hope if there is anything else she wants to ask, she will feel more comfortable as time goes on.