Oldest sister breaks my heart. Croi has met her a handful of times (during visit transportation) and I have met her twice. But she is part of my thoughts frequently.
What are the possibilities that this girl will have a good outcome from this situation?
She is 9. Nine. At nine I was running barefoot between houses, worried who I would sit by at lunch, loving my family.
She has been in several unstable environments and been bounced around in foster care for several years. Her current foster family sounds like a great fit–stable, loving, firm, good members of the community, giving her access to a lot of opportunities. But, she’s “too old” and they don’t want to adopt her. Her foster parents have another placement, a 7 year old girl, who they are willing to adopt. Can you imagine being told your foster sister is being adopted and you are not?
We were originally told that we might be asked to take placement of 4 year old sister. There would be some challenges, but we would most likely say yes to her.
But a nine year old with attachment issues? Yikes. How can we say we would be open to adopting her two siblings, but not her? I know how it feels to feel not good enough, damaged, defective.
Pumpkin is in my heart. If he is in my home permanently or not is still to be decided. But, he is forever my family. And my family just grew exponentially. His family is my family.
But, can I help her? I don’t know.