Like any good listmaker, I had a bunch of questions for our first foster/adopt meeting. Most of them I can live with “either way” I just want to know the answer to. Does the state cover the cost of day care for foster kids? All medical care is covered?
How does the foster care work in a state with a DOMA? I think Croi is the only foster parent, and I am her “roommate.” (obviously the agency knows what is going on, but legally, on paper…) How can I take the kids to the doctor, to school, even be alone with them?
And the biggest fear–my medical history. I have looked and looked on the internet to find an answer to this question. How does my mental health history effect my eligibility/likelihood to be a foster parent? I can’t find anything. Which is either a really good or really bad sign. Full disclosure: I had (poorly treated) depression for many years. Two years ago October I decided to end my life, and thankfully, ended up in the hospital for 14 days. I got a new course of meds, new psychiatrist, and have never been better. How will that be viewed? I just wanted to know if there was a “waiting period” and how long it was. Both my therapist and my psychiatrist would happily sign a letter saying they support my decision to be a mom.
Does anyone know anything about how mental illness is viewed by foster and adoption agencies? It’s the un-spoken (well, we talked about it last night) fear. I can’t even write the “what comes nexts” for the wave of paralyzing sadness that comes over me.
On a hopeful note, I won ourgrowingfamily’s diaper giveaway! I am taking this as a sign that I can begin collecting a few items!